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Kaleah's E-books
Available for Immediate Download
I have written two E-books covering my research and experience with narcissistic and emotional abuse.
The first E-book "Spiritual Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse" tells my own story of abuse and how I recovered and also provides important tools on how to recover from this type of abuse in the quickest, most empowering way.
Find out how to cut the psychic chords between you and the person who is feeding off your energy. Learn how to protect yourself and prevent further abuse.
You can learn more about this book here.
The second and most recent E-book "Narcissism: The Web of Illusion" delves much deeper into the topic of narcissism and how it not only effects us on a personal level but also how it is infiltrating our entire society and even our world.
I write this book from the standpoint that knowledge is power and the more you know the stronger and better able to protect yourself you will be. In this E-book I also discuss good and evil and how it plays out in narcissistic relationships.
Learn more about this E-book here.
Letters from Readers:
I just wanted you to know that I have read a LOT of books on
narcissism and have had lots of therapy. All of them helped me,
although some of the information was repetitive after awhile--but
then narcissists follow pretty predictable patterns--mine certainly
did! But it wasn't until I read your book and did the exercise where
you ask us to get a piece of paper, make two columns, and write how
you felt at the beginning of the relationship in the first column and
how you felt about yourself in the second column at the end of the
relationship, then put your own name on the top of the first and his
name on the top of the second--and that now you would see what the
relationship is all about--that how you felt about yourself at the
end of the relationship is how he feels about himself. Wow! The
veil FINALLY fell from my eyes! I understood better than I ever had
what had happened to me!
My ex-husband had been criticized constantly by parents who felt that
if you gave a child a compliment they would quit trying. So, unable
to find love and acceptance at home, he became a star athlete and
straight A student at school. I had been a pretty good student, but
not driven as my ex-husband had been to achieve THE best grades in
school, but after I married him, I felt a need to go back to grad
school--I felt that I could do nothing right at home--he constantly
criticized me, but that I was still the queen in grad school--I
worked hard and got straight As--of course he complained about this
as well--that I should only be getting Bs because As meant that I was
spending too much time away from him and our son! There was no winning!
So, anyway, thanks to your book, I finally understood what had
happened to me and I am eternally thankful and the book was well
worth every penny!
D. W.
I first found your site on the net and ordered your first book, Spiritual Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse. The book has helped me tremendously to cope with what was happening to me at that time. We've been involved for nearly 2 years in what I thought was a healthy relationship when things started to change. He lied and became abusive towards me and the beautiful person I knew became like the devil himself. I obviously didn't understand the reason for the change then, but I now know it started once I stopped believing in the illusion and started to stand up against him. I'm physically in the same league as him so could counter the threat of physical abuse, but the amount of psychological abuse he unleashed at me was unbelievable. At one point I actually believed he was intent on completely destroying me and it was then that I realized I had to get him out of my life.
After we separated it was as if I had woken from a dream. I had difficulty comprehending what had happened at first but again your book described what I had experienced in a way that I could completely identify with. He had been leading a double life, presenting himself to me in a way completely different to the way he came across to others. He had been playing the role of perfect partner to me as long as I kept giving him what he needed. He's an attractive man and came across as very self-assured even though he was the one with zero self-esteem. I was his source of narcissistic supply and once I stopped supplying I was no longer any use to him. I found out afterwards he was never faithful to me yet he often used to blow up and accuse me of looking at other men. The worst is he devastated my circle of friends. He tried to isolate me against those that saw through him or were faithful to me, and he slept with or tried to sleep with the rest. Needless to say I have very few friends left but those I know to be true.
I'm not sure how I would have coped without the total understanding and guidelines in your book; it was as if you had written it especially for me. Yet I still made mistakes, he tried so many times to get back into my life afterwards and is especially good at playing the sympathy card. I have to admit I allowed him another hold on me on more than one occasion. I even took him back once. Yet, every time after a short period of being his old self the abuse returned resulting in me chasing him away again. Eventually I realized he was only using me so I made the decision to cut off from him completely. He still tried to come back but I began applying the principles in your book and broke it off on a spiritual level first. I started doing the confirmations and I took back what he took from me. I knew he subconsciously knew that I broke his hold over me because I started hearing less and less of him.
Then you published your second book, Narcissism: The Web of Illusion which confirmed everything I had learned from your first book. If your first book helped me to break the hold he had over me, then your second book enabled me to move on. I've read it through a few times and every time I gained more perspective about what happened and the role that I played in it. I also understand now that I had a lesson to learn from this experience and that it has made me a stronger person. I started seeing someone else and almost fell into the same trap again, at first not believing he was the same because his approach was totally different! Yet through the knowledge that you shared I had learned to spot the signs and trust my instincts enough to protect myself.
I want to thank you for the valuable insights and lessons you've provided me by writing about your own experience. You've been like a mentor to me at a time when no-one else understood or had advice about the nightmare I found myself in.
May the light always shine upon you.
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